Friday, January 9, 2015
The blessing of Speech!
Saturday, December 20, 2014
The disappearing wisdom of grandmother’s tales.
- 1. Our generation is "born with the silver spoon generation"
- 2. Are we able to talk to our children?
My Naniammi passed away on 17th December 2014, couple of days back. May Allah grant her the highest place in Jannah – Ameen!. Personally, I can’t help but keep remembering every single time I have sat down with her to listen to stories of her childhood and also the childhood of my parents. I hold all these stories very dearly in my heart and keep recalling them, lest it might fade away in the clutter I hold in my mind. For when I share these stories with my children, Insha Allah, it will be the best stories.
My dearest Naniammi |
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
I try to remember what I have forgotten. And I try to forget what I should have forgotten.
As I sit here besides the great ocean, remembering, reminiscing.......
I try to remember what I have forgotten
And I try to forget what I should have forgotten.
We forgot how lovely the sunrise was or still is.
But we have not forgotten to wake up early and race against it.
We forgot how refreshing the cool morning breeze is.
But we haven’t forgotten to switch on the AC before we settle down anywhere.
We forgot how good the breakfast was when our moms use to lay it for us.
But we haven’t forgotten to skip breakfast for a lean figure.
We forgot how we wouldn’t start our class without greeting each and every friend present.
But we haven’t forgotten to ignore the colleague in the next cubicle.
Today, in this fast paced life filled with technology, we still tend to forget
Our loved one's birthdays, anniversaries, groceries, even the simplest of them all reaching home on time to spend time with family.
But we never forget our work, our official work, and never forget to be punctual for appointments and most of all never forget to sacrifice our personal time for a little extra overtime.
We forget to care.
But always remember to flatter our superiors at work.
We forget to help others
But always remember to step on them for our own success.
We forget to love or even express it.
But always remember to demand it or its compensation.
We forget to keep in touch.
But always remember to cherish the memories.
We forget to remain calm n patient.
But always remember to lose our temper.
We forget to respect and nurture.
But always remember to assert our age n experience.
We forget the very reason we started on this journey and the route planned.
But we remember the result and to achieve it no matter what.
Is this the fault of our memory, or as they call it amnesia. Or has our minds reprogrammed our priorities.
We forget to celebrate our near n dear one's success.
But we do not forget to get jealous n curse our luck.
We forget to comfort them in their hard times.
But never to cry out in front of the world when in pain.
We forget people’s names.
But do not forget the business opportunity they are for our success.
We forget to encourage.
But never to discourage.
We forget to praise.
But never to criticize.
We forget to be generous.
But never to be stingy.
We forget to have fun.
But never to be serious.
We forget to express gratitude.
But never to demand more.
We forget to accept responsibility.
But never to blame others.
For sure most of us have forgotten compassion.
But never to be more practical.
As I sit here beside the great ocean, I see, I think, and I reflect.
I try to remember what I have forgotten.
And I try to forget what I should have forgotten.
I forgot to carry a pen n paper to write these thoughts down.
But haven’t forgotten to carry a Smartphone where I can type it all.
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Hypocrisy - The act of pretending to be better than one is
Pretending to be busy when your not busy
Pretending to be happy when your not happy
Pretending to look sorted when inside its total complex
Pretending to be at peace when its nothing but chaotic
Pretending to having the time of the life when its sucks big time
Pretending to be good when you don’t want to every time
Pretending to be cool when your mind is blowing off with rage
Pretending to be free when it feels like your stuck in some cage
Pretending to pray when deep down you feel an atheist
Pretending to abide when inside you feel the urge to deny
Pretending to help others when you are the one who needs help
Pretending to be all fixed up when you are totally broken inside
Pretending to have loved when it was nothing more than a crush
Pretending to love them all when at times you just feel shooting em’ all
Pretending to be all grown up and mature when you in fact are just a spoilt brat
Pretending to listen all the time when what you really do most of the time is ignore
Pretending to have forgiven even though you curse them with every breath
Pretending to have forgotten even though each wound still aches
Pretending to solve others mess when you yourself are in deep shit
Pretending to be genuine when in fact you are the real hypocrite
Sunday, November 14, 2010
When I say YES! | When I say NO!
When I say YES! | When I say NO! |
People are happy even if I am not People don’t ask even though I would like them to hear me out They readily shirk their work for me even though I said yes, only for my part They smile even though I feel like cursing them inside They agree even though I have certain objections They relax even though they know my weekend is screwed. | People are sad even if it means my happiness People ask for justification even when I don’t need to give any. They feel burdened even though I was not part of their task in the first place They frown even though they know it means good to me They disagree even after I have made my decision They get tensed even though it is their work and their deadline They hate me even though it does not affect my love for them |
Sunday, September 19, 2010
There is a very thin line between.....
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Spare your tongue!
Monday, February 8, 2010
Nazariya - Chapter 1
Dreamer – anyone who dreams. According to its definition all human beings are dreamers. So what is it I want to discuss here? Lets begin.
I am not talking about some great visionary or scientist or inventor here. I am not talking about some great leader or statesman here. I am talking about us here, we the people.
In school, I believe there are two types of students. One type, the focussed, bright ‘A’ graders who will always figure in the top 5% or say 10% of the result sheet. And the other type, I would prefer to call them ‘Dreamers.’
So do I mean that the ‘A’ graders don’t dream at all, absolutely not! Then why only the second type are called ‘dreamers.’? Well, by the end of this I hope you will be able to see my ‘Nazariya’.
The ‘A’ graders there are very good, very focussed since a very young age as to what they want in life, what are their goals, and more importantly how to reach that goal. You really have to give it to them ladies and gentleman for their unwavering will and focus, otherwise in today’s world it is very easy to get distracted.
I think it is more to do with the way their minds were conditioned at a very young age.
For example, I may be wrong, but most of the kids who have their parents as doctors, end up being doctors. One of the reasons I suppose is that from a very early age they see their parents as doctors, they hang around hospitals, see what great job their parents are doing and hence you know get inspired to be that which leads to their dreams, goals and passion, all linked to being a doctor.
Other type of ‘A’ graders is those who from a very young age have an idol to look upto and then they get so obsessed with it that they want to achieve more or the same as their idol. Once again their dreams, goals and passion get linked to that one thing or one filed their idol belongs.
But no, I am not here to discuss these ‘A’ graders, I want to tell you more about ‘Dreamers’. Who are they? Well a simple way to identify them is as elaborated below.
Around 9th or 10th std most of us in school are bombarded again again by one question, “What is your goal is life?” Invariably all the students in the class will answer. But there will be some who will lie, not because they don’t want to tell the truth but because, the truth is, they don’t have one.
Right from the school to college and even while working, the dreamer doesn’t have that one dream to throw himself totally into, but he has lots of dreams behind which his heart would like to run.
‘A’ graders, right from the beginning have one goal and one dream and hence I feel sometimes this acts as a disadvantage, in a way that not many other things interest them and hence I feel there exploring instincts get rusted. Whereas, on the other hand, ‘Dreamer’ is always exploring new fields, always falling in love with something or the other.
Take the author for example, for those who don’t know the author personally it starts with cars and bikes, since a very young age he was crazy behind them. So logically the answer to the question – “what is your goal in life?” in 10th std was automobile engineer. But somewhere deep down in his heart he was still debating, was it the machine that he was attracted to or the feeling of driving or riding. Moving on, the author went on to do his engineering in Mechanical.
Then came along MBA, a field he was unaware until his 3rd year Engg, until he heard his friends discussing it. Subsequently it led him to exploring media, advertising and marketing. The author fell in love gain. He started loving media and advertising so much he dreamt of himself as an advertising guru.
Also along the way he got encouragement for his writing skills. He started dreaming of himself as a writer.
All this while he got a chance to spend more time on the road, tripping on his bike and then suddenly he realised that his real passion was travelling and being on the road on the bike.
Now well into his first job and also having quit it, the author has some different plans. When his boss (now ex) asked him during his exit interview “Where do you see yourself after 10 years?” he says, “I see myself as a teacher.”
On the other hand if he would have been an ‘A’ grader kind of focussed guy I am sure he would be as of now an M. Tech and working in some R&D department of some automobile company.
But mind you, the author was a bright student, a college and once a university topper in Engg.
But tell me what is more interesting, the 3 lines mentioned above of the author as an ‘A’ grader – which literally sums up the entire life. Or the 4 paragraphs of the actual life of author, to which more will get added coz the author is a dreamer.
Exactly, and let me tell you dear readers we will realize this when we become parents or grandparents (assuming the present generation won’t have time as parents to tell their children stories but sure hope they do have time as grandparents) and we are narrating our stories to the kids around.
The ‘A’ graders will have stories but I feel they will be short and will evoke only one feeling – inspiring. But us Dreamers, our stories will have all the masala in it, the confusion while choosing subjects, the goof up of flunking in a course because we just chose it on impulse and the uncertainty of where our lives will lead us but nevertheless enjoying it to the hilt.
And I would say the dreamer’s life is also shaped up into the way it is, largely due to the freedom of thought which he gets from his family, the undying support from them in whatever he does.
Some of you may say, doesn’t he mean day dreamers, people always lost in their world of fantasies not quite focussed, etc.
I would beg to differ, day dreamers have a derogatory feel attached to it. On the other hand I feel its not at all derogatory to be a dreamer. I feel as opposed to the ‘A’ graders who always think “I have to do this” a dreamer will always think “I have to do all this” and more so “what else can I do?” and may get up every day of his life having dreamt of himself as a different person, in a different career.
Dreamer’s dreams are not enslaved by one goal as opposed to an ‘A’ graders. An ‘A’ grader, who wants to become a doctor, will always dream of topping his class, getting admission to the best college in medicine, specialising and being a top notch doctor. Whereas a dreamer’s dreams are like a free bird. Always flying and exploring new horizons.
Tell me readers how many of you (considering you all are working) still get dreams of you doing good in some other field other than the one you are working, and you get up and say, “why not?” I feel majority of our dreams are enslaved, by our day to day commitments. Some of us just dream or rather I should say plan their following day in their dreams, they do financial planning in their dreams. Zyada se zyada they will dream about a new home, new car or a vacation . C’mon give me a break. Allah hasn’t given us this awesome blessing to be wasted like this.
I guess this has become too long and I might as well end it here.
So like I said in the beginning lets hear it once again for the ‘A’ graders and last but not the least, raise whatever is in your hands and say, heres to the ‘Dreamers’!!!!!
"Nazariya" - a point of view
In this section I would like to put forth my point of view on some subjects. Subjects – some may sound very trivial, some may be interesting, some may be debatable or some may be hilarious.
Whatever it may sound like is up to each individual reading it and I would like honest feedback on the same.
Before I begin, a disclaimer – The author means no harm or has no aim to ridicule any section, region or part of the society. Also some of the articles in this section may not have a sound base of facts so my apologies if i have quoted something wrong. The aim of this section is just to entertain, and if possible sometimes to provide food for thought.